Depression ,you can overcome it.Throw it out…

I think that many of us sometimes we have feel sometimes that we cannot achieve our goals and we feel sometimes inferior.Even though ,I think that we can find some ways to tackle depression.Here I will present you some ways.

Managing the stress levels

Stress, anger and anxiety

How we habitually deal with stress plays an important role in our vulnerability to depression. Certain depressed thinking habits make us particularly vulnerable also to anxiety or anger spirals, which in turn contribute to the depression habit spiral.

Control – the holy grail

Anxiety and anger spirals arise mainly from the kinds of depressed thinking which focus on imposing unrealistic control over life: rule-bound thinking, control freakery, catastrophising, hyper-vigilance and avoidance. See the page on stress, anxiety and anger for more details.

Managing stress better

Stress itself cannot be avoided, and certain levels of ‘anxiety’ are necessary in order for us to function in the world. If you had no anxiety about your exams you probably wouldn’t bother with any revision at all! Anger is also important for helping us defend ourselves from attack, for example. The key is to learn how to manage your stress levels better, so that anxiety and anger are channelled constructively.

Strategies

• Identify relevant depressed thinking habits

  • Anxious and angry spirals work in the same way as the depression habit spiral, with anxious and angry thinking habits having an effect on your behaviour, brain chemicals and mood.
  • Use the strategies for challenging depressed thinking to identify whether your attempts to impose control in your life have led to any of the habits relevant to anxiety and/or anger.

• Learn about constructive control

  • Having a constructive approach to control in life is like riding a bicycle…
  • If you don’t try to steer and never use the brakes you give yourself a pretty dangerous ride. But if you brake too hard (ie. want to impose too much control) you’ll probably get thrown over the handlebars!
  • If you let yourself balance without thinking about it too hard, and use the brakes and gears appropriately, the bike becomes an extension of your body and riding it can feel almost effortless.
  • Try to practise “going with the flow” of life in the same way, putting effort in when needed, freewheeling when there’s a downhill stretch and “putting the brakes on” gently and in good time without panicking…

• Apply this to control-focused thinking habits

  • Make a list of the “shoulds” and “oughts” you impose on yourself and the world.
  • Practise changing these from demands you make of yourself and the world to “preferences” which may or may not be fulfilled.
    “I have to pass this exam or my life will be ruined” becomes “I would really like to pass this exam, but if I don’t I will have to explore other options like re-sits, or re-doing the year. That won’t be great, so I’ll do what I can now to try to pass.”
  • Think about practical ways you can help yourself manage the disappointments when your preferences are not met. See also challenging disappointment insurance.

• Learn breathing and relaxation techniques

  • Deep breathing techniques intervene directly into the anxiety/anger spiral by countering the hyperventilation which causes light-headedness, slowing down the heart beat and giving your brain more relaxed rather than anxious/angry messages.
  • Learn more about deep breathing and make a daily habit of practising the techniques on the relaxation page. This helps you to manage stress on a daily basis as well as honing your skills for use when you are feeling particularly stressed.

• Address your fears

  • Make a list of your fears and grade them in order of difficulty.
  • Starting with one of the more manageable ones, challenge yourself to have a go at dealing with it constructively instead of avoiding it.
  • Ask yourself what is the worst thing that could happen and plan for how you would deal with it in practical ways if it did happen.
  • Notice which depressed thinking habits are getting in your way.
  • Make sure you are properly supported. Either ask a friend or get professional support, especially as you proceed to more difficult things on your list.
  • Read Feel the fear and do it anyway (see books page)

• Learn anger management skills

  • Make a list of the things that make you angry and grade them in order of importance.
  • Starting with one of the less important ones, think about what you can control in the situation. Usually at the very least you can choose your own attitude or response to the situation.
  • Consider how you might let go of the need to control the aspects that you can’t control.
  • Notice whether depressed thinking habits are getting in your way.
  • Think about practical ways to communicate the anger effectively or else channel the adrenalin in other ways, like through exercise.

• Practise positive habits for channelling strong feelings

  • Build more exercise into your life so as to use up some of the adrenalin you produce through hyper-vigilance or high anger levels.
  • Learn about assertive communication and put it into practice in your life in general, not just when you are angry or anxious.
  • Use the energy to go and make a difference in the world! Volunteer to help others less fortunate, get together with other students to campaign against depression-inducing practices (or anything else that bugs you)… Try out things that might give a sense of meaning to your life.

Increasing Exercise

Exercise affects mood chemicals

Even very moderate exercise can make a big difference to your mood. Exercise raises the levels of endorphins (a mood chemical) in your brain, giving feelings of pleasure and raising mood. It also contributes to a sense of achievement.

Reversing the depression habit spiral

Exercise therefore helps to address the depression habit spiral at the biological and psychological level. If you exercise with friends or meet new people that way, then it can also help at the social level (see why me? for more on the effect of different factors on depression).

What exercise did you use to enjoy?
What could you do with the support and company of others?

Good depression-busting exercise ideas

• Walking

  Easy and cheap, can be fitted in to daily routines. Especially good when done in pleasant outdoor surroundings, but even 5 minutes around the block can make a difference. Can be enjoyable to share with someone else.

• Yoga or pilates

  Gentle, non-competitive exercise. Teaches relaxation techniques, useful for managing stress or anger levels, sorting out sleep patterns and generally raising mood levels. Often offered at university sports centres.

• Swimming

  Can include vigorous or gentler, more relaxing elements. Immersion in water can be very soothing. Choose a time when the pool isn’t too busy, so that you can go at your own pace and benefit from the relaxation effects as well as the exercise.

• Team sports

  Any team sport, especially if undertaken for fun and socialising purposes. Check at your students union for clubs.

• Martial arts

  Gentler martial arts which focus on internal control, breathing and mental discipline can be especially useful for combating depressed thinking.

• “Green gym”

  The green gym concept is about exercising in a constructive way by participating in organised outdoor, “green” projects such as tree planting or dry stone walling. See other useful websites for more info.